Entry FeedI am going to call this the "back-to-school" theory, though a subtitle could be "new-stuff, same-old crap!"
You know when you were a kid and it was late August. You got new clothes, new shoes, a new back-pack, and brand new school supplies. This was going to be your year! You would be well dressed every day, well organized, clean locker, homework done well and on time. Everything would be perfect, just because you bought new school supplies. But by the end of September, you were back to your same old messy procrastinating habits.
As adults, we do the same. New journal and pen because I am going to start journaling! Lasts a week before the entries start coming once or twice a week, and then not at all. New running shoes, exercise clothes, and a gym membership. Month; six weeks tops.
Brand new renovated kitchen - $60 K. Because the reason I didn't cook before was because I didn't have granite counter tops and a travertine floor.
Laundry. I have the tools - great tools. A new front loading washer. A new gas commercial HUGE dryer. Still don't want to do laundry. EVER!
Husband used to take care of all of the laundry - his and mine - before we had kids. It was part of my "match made in heaven" philosophy. He didn't cook - I loved to cook. I didn't clean and do laundry - his jobs!
Now, here we are. I just admitted to myself that after ten years of marriage he doesn't love me as much as he used to, back in the days when he used to take care of the laundry, the garbage (my job) and the housework...
It reminds me of a funny story a friend told me of a newly-wed. Both new husband and wife are coming to this union from their parent's homes, never having lived alone nor together. She asked how things would be negotiated, like, "Who will be making the bed everyone morning?" The new-wife answered, "OH! We talked about that, and we will make it together every morning!" Sweet, unknowing smile.